Sunday Gratitudes #28

“It can be easy to focus on negatives when things aren’t going well, but incorporating even a 5-minute gratitude practice into your day can completely alter your mindset… The more we focus on what is good about our lives, the more goodness shows up.” (x)


I’m grateful for…

🍭 – Taking Sunday as a rest day of just doing nothing. Lately I feel like I’ve running around a lot but not accomplishing much. At least this was one day I didn’t accomplish very much on purpose!

🍭 – Having a cider coworker! That’s right, my boss who owns the magazine also happens to be starting a cider company. I am in on the ground floor.

🍭 – So much new web design experience making a website from scratch on Wix. Today I went over what I have with one of or PR contractors and got lots of nice compliments on my work so far.

🍭 – It turns out I know enough about Salesforce to sort of get Zoho right off the bat.

🍭 – THE WEBSITE FOR WORK FINALLY BEING FINISHED AND LIVE. I have now successfully used Wix to make a thing, and it looks bangin’.

🍭 – My boss, to apologize to my partner for keeping me at work so late, sending me home on Friday with a free bottle of hard cider.

🍭 – Finding two perfect chairs while antiquing.

🍭 – My partner’s mom. She’s a great lady.

🍭 – Kittens!

What have you felt grateful for this week?


Sunday Gratitudes #27

“Gratitude is the foundation of happiness. It’s not about being indebted or beholden to anyone. It’s about being aware of the good in our lives, in others, in the world around us. By feeling and expressing gratitude for what you have in your life you are more mindful of your connections with others, you’re more aware of your thoughts, words and actions to yourself and those around you, and you are able to recognise and savour the good in your life, however insignificant those moments may appear. All of which has been found by countless studies to have a significant positive impact on your wellbeing and happiness.” (x)

I’m grateful for…

🎨 – Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.

🎨 – Payday!

🎨 – Having a place to move into at last! And in the meantime, having a nice sleeping bag and camping pads to be reasonably comfortable on.

🎨 – How amazing our new place is. High ceilings, glass in all the doors (even the door to the bedroom) so there’s a lot of natural light, an amazing outdoor space where we can grow some of our own food… It’s a duplex so we have one shared wall with our landlord, but that should be fine.

🎨 – The kittens getting along enough to be together all the time, with or without supervision. 

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They have such different personalities, it’s kind of amazing.

🎨 – Being able to explore our new town and the stretch of area between this new place and my office.

🎨 – Having this amazing place to work from home in.

🎨 – Feeling so light and airy and inspired!

🎨 – How nice and cool it is inside the house, even though it’s a really hot day. It’s well shaded by the surrounding trees. (Some of which are Gravenstein apple trees with ripening fruit!)

🎨 – Finding the best china cabinet after less than a week of haphazardly browsing antique stores. The one we got (at our favorite antique store, like seriously) was only $400 and it came with a built-in light! We really needed one because all the kitchen shelves are completely open and it’s a kitty paradise… Just a recipe for eating a lot of cat hair if we were to keep our dishes down there, heh.

What have you felt grateful for this week?

IWSG Post #01

I just found this through Elegance Icy’s post! (Yeah, I am that far behind on all the blogs I follow. It’s… one of those months. Again.)

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

The purpose of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group is to share doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak, and encourage each other. There’s a new question on the first Wednesday of every month, so here’s July.

What’s the best thing someone has ever said about your writing?

This is not difficult to answer. A college friend of mine who I followed on Tumblr did one of those “give me a number and I will publish a compliment directed anonymously to your number.” What she wrote was beautiful, and I was smart enough at the time to take a screencap of it.

First, I should say that these days I struggle with the feeling that I was a much better writer in college than I am now. I haven’t really written and completed any original fiction since graduating six years ago. (My NaNoWriMo novel does not count, because even though I hit the 50k word mark I didn’t actually get to the end of the story.) I still haven’t gotten anything published. I haven’t even tried to enter any writing contests. Even when I sort of make some progress on my novel, I still feel like I’m merely treading water.

So every once in a while I pull this out and read it again for a self-esteem boost.

“Oh my god, have I ever mentioned that you saved [that writing class] for me? Because you did. You were a huge part of why I didn’t pointlessly cause conflict in that workshop — I might’ve been closer with [some of our other classmates], but you were one of the standouts in that class, because you didn’t just kowtow to [the professor’s] definition of ‘acceptable’ fiction, and her habit of erasing sci-fi, fantasy, and supernatural-themed stories with stuff like, ‘I don’t even think this IS a fantasy story.’

I was actually going through some of my collections from old classes the other day and found an old copy of [one of your stories from that class] and remembered just how much I fucking loved it. If I haven’t mentioned it before: I love how uncompromising you were about the fact that people can write ‘genre fiction’ and have it be amazing, even if it doesn’t fit the strictest definition of ‘literary fiction.’

You can be really shy and kind of quiet, in person, but anyone who thinks you’re just that is dead wrong — you’re feisty, your sense of humor is absolutely killer, I love your brain and how unique your perspective on things are… You’re one of the people who makes me proud to have gone to [our college]. You’re a great example of what our alma mater’s system can produce, when it’s paired with someone who has all the talent and insight, but also has a drive that some people lack. It’s not like, drive in a stereotypically Slytherin-esque, ‘I want to take over the world’ sort of way; it’s this quiet determination to make yourself and your work the best that it can be, and I admire that in you.”

… That’s probably not only the best thing anyone has said about my writing, but the best, most well-composed compliment I’ve ever received.

My first thought upon rereading it was, “No… I wasn’t that uncompromising.” And then I remembered some of the arguments heated discussions I got into with that professor. Mostly they involved fanfiction and whether or not it was a valid writing exercise (I still think it is), but although I can’t remember specifics I’m sure there were more topics besides that one that we clashed over. That example statement is something that would make me cranky enough to say something, especially if I’d been hearing it on a regular basis. If you wanted to consider a sci-fi story more in terms of the human elements than the setting it’s placed in then fine, but it is still sci-fi because you could do that with just about any story.

I’m already itching to find the story she was talking about and reread it, maybe edit it a bit and try to get it published somewhere. The reason I never had before is because I always sort of wanted it to be longer, possibly novel length. But I’ve also read a fair amount of novels that were originally published as short stories, so why not. Might as well work on my follow-through.

To all insecure writers out there (insecure anybody, really), I recommend going to your most eloquent friend and asking them to write down something they really like about you. Then save it and keep it for any gloomy moods you have in the years to come.

Daily Writing Progress #25

Thursday, July 7th

  • Project: It’s Mine
    • Total Word Count: 384
    • New Words: 198
  • Thoughts: Writing. Woo.

Friday, July 8th

  • Missed this day.

Saturday, July 9th

  • Missed this day.

Sunday, July 10th

  • Missed this day.

Monday, July 11th

  • Project: It’s Mine
    • Total Word Count: 676
    • New Words: 292
  • Thoughts: This was a little bit fueled by 500mL of quality apple cider. But I also ended up writing some of the things that have been percolating in my head for a while. … Anyway it’s been a rough week, I’m just glad I got this much banged out.

Sunday Gratitudes #26

“[A]ccepting real life for what it is—and others for who they are, namely people who, like everyone else, have flaws—results in an all-around better life. … ‘It is quite brave and revolutionary when people drop the fantasy and start practicing acceptance and gratitude for where their problems are.’” (x)

I’m grateful for…

👙 – Getting the birthday card from my Gramy! Finally, heh. There was a problem with all our mail bouncing, so my Uncle in Montana had to send it to my parents’ house for her.

👙 – Getting hugs from both of my parents this weekend. I’ve been having a rough time and they’re not usually very huggy people, so it was nice.

👙 – The ecard app I just added to my phone. I’m starting to work on telling people thank you more often!

👙 – Pictures of the baby kitten trying to drink out of/chewing a straw.

👙 – The site of white foam against dark see in the pre-dusk light.


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👙 – Said rental property being only 17-22 minutes away from my work with NO FREEWAY DRIVING.

👙 – All the help my partner’s dad has been to us. He’s our guarantor and probably the main reason our landlord picked us.

👙 – My parents being willing to drop everything and come get me when I need them.

👙 – Saying I’m sorry.

What have you felt grateful for this week?


Daily Writing Progress #24

Friday, July 1st

  • Project: Liebster Award! post
    • Word Count: 798
  • Thoughts: It may be silly to include a Liebster post in my word counts, but it was hard man. I set out to catch up on blogs and that’s what I ended up doing instead.

Saturday, July 2nd

  • Missed this day.

Sunday, July 3rd

  • Project: It’s Mine
    • Total Word Count: 633
  • Thoughts: I think I have an idea for restarting this… again. Apparently my biggest problems with this story have been picking whose POV it’s from and how early/late it starts.

Monday, July 4th

  • Project: Morning pages
    • Pages: 1
  • Thoughts: I wrote some of the story in my morning pages, but since it’s longhand and I don’t feel like counting it, I’m not including it in my word counts until I get it typed up. Hopefully tomorrow.

Tuesday, July 5th

  • Project: It’s Mine restart
    • Word Count: 186
  • Thoughts: I feel like this is starting to come together.

Wednesday, July 6th

  • Missed this day in favor of apartment showings. I need somewhere to live!


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#25 – Sunday, July 3

“What irritates me, is when people, well meaning of course, say things like “I know things seem really hard right now but it will help if you can muster up some gratitude for everything that you do have.” In my mind, what I hear is admonishment: aka stop complaining. It gives me an instant twinge of annoyance like an electrical shock because it isn’t helpful advice.

Here’s the thing—being reminded to be grateful when you’re having an emotional breakdown is a little like being reprimanded for crying too long when you skinned your knee as a kid. The message is that it’s not okay to hurt or express frustration. It’s not okay to ask, in your own roundabout way, for help to process what’s happening for you. … We want to believe this stuff works because we want to feel better. But the real shift isn’t going to come from memorizing platitudes and trying to follow along.

The real shift happens when we become aware of what’s holding us back from being able to follow the advice in the first place.” (x)

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Look closely for the dangling power lines and the tree in the road.

I’m grateful for…

🐢 – Getting a haircut. I had her take off probably at least three inches to just off my shoulders. Bring on summer.

🐢 – That falling tree not landing on my car.

🐢 – Those power lines not falling in on my car or electrocuting me after I got out.

🐢 – Generally not being dead after a tree fell down behind me and the power lines fell down in front. That was a weird mix of bad luck and good luck.

🐢 – Remaining calm when I nearly died. Continue reading “#25 – Sunday, July 3”